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The Unexpected Connections

I met Sophie Pace in a closed group interaction. I was replying to everybody’s post in the group as it occurred to me at that moment. That is how I am know to her.p.Two days back, she wanted to know how we met, in order to clear her facebook connections. So I commented that we met in that group. 

  • Sophie Pace : Nilima Bandhavgarh Nilima…The first life you remember, perhaps…I recall you as a guard at the entry to the pyramid I was closed in with my Mother…She hand picked you because you were trustworthy and had already lived through so much…She was a real task-master! So, you impressed her!
  • Nilima Bandhavgarh: Sophie Pace What a surprise, Sophie! My respect to your mother 
  • Sophie Pace: Nilima Bandhavgarh I’ll tell Mary you said “Hello!”

For a moment I thought Sophie was getting crazy. Does she remember her past births? Me being there as a guard at some Pyramid in that birth when Sophie with her mother approached me?? If it is true, then I know one of my previous births through Sophie. And that explains my fascination for Pyramids; they tell so much about our ow hidden potential , … and that all understanding about the highest energy are basically the same. 

If Sophie was just expressing whatever came to her mind looking at my sentence is also significant. She expresses the essence that I present to the world now. I was picked up because of the hard work I have bee putting up, as per her. Somebody so choosy as her mother.Her mother is “Mary” in this birth, who is her niece… 

Look at Sophie as her Painting Show is today, her video clip is attached here.The message from the universe to me through Sophie is enormous! This is not the first time when people utter very weird statements about me which sound so very out of the world.When one focuses, the unheard is audible and the unseen is visible.How true! I have allowed myself the shift because of the law of attraction formula that I am practicing now.

The signs from the universe come where your focus is. If you look for signs, those are there. Those come in the phrases your trusted friends are using. You overheard something over the TV. Those are the sure hints which may be we ignore because we do not intend to take action. Else, the guidance is ever-present.

Look for Sophie, as to what she is doing these days. She is arranging her home with her own paintings. She is trying to give herself as abstract an air as possible. On Saturday (June 13th 2020), she is going to host an exhibition. She is as absorbed with her creation as a stranger can be. But the message that was to reach me, whas delivered through her in time.

An Artists Self and Home BEFORE Her Show Happens!

Sophie Pace यांनी वर पोस्ट केले शनिवार, ६ जून, २०२०

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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝟐 𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬

I felt like singing Mukesh’s song

“Mei pal do pal ka shayar hun

Pal do pal meri hasti hei


That is when I heard the boss 

Giving me ultimatum if 

I don’t improve the performance this month.

Last 9 months, I have been giving super results

Topper of my branch.

This month, it has not been so good.

And he says he has to sit 

Here in this branch along with me

To bring up the performance.

So how do you improve relationship

With such a boss?

I flipped through my notes.

Here is an exercise.

I need to find the formula for.

The first thing is 



I will be spending the rest of 

My life here.

 Which means 

It is 2 days of my life

Given that my entire life is only of 4 days.


Why bother for those 2 days?

And if I decide to leave today

Then he is no longer my boss.

The experience that I am associating

With him

Is again for just 2 days.


I do not carry the experience with me forever.

By the way,

The third possibility could be

The Universal NUDGE


I should wake up to

Bigger possibilities


Just not be the

Frog of that well-celebrated well.

And I should

Thank the boss

That he became the Medium

To remind me of that.

It will go down to my 

Memory lane

As an experience of just 2 days

That changed my life

Should I

Take the challenge to




Into my life!!

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50% goals have 50% chance to fail

How long have you been since you dreamt big?

How many have told you it is an impossible dream?

How frequently you have wondered that it might be a day dream?

According to Vishen Lakhiani, the ‘Mindvalley’ man,  half the goals fail half the time.Why?Because those are seemingly impossible.

Because those are very BIG dreams.

But you know what?Take a closer look.50% of the goals fail half the time. 

Which means those will succeed half the time.Presumably, after it fails for the first 50 days.50 months?50 years?

No no no.It is 50% of time that you have.

It succeeds some way or the other.

Half the time.Recognize to record your success.

Any insight you are able to gain is a success. Agree on that?

Insights make you wise.Agree on that?

So your sense of inadequacy is gone.Agree on that?

That gives you two achievements… 

The dream 

The insight are the ones which have the ability to change lives.Right?

So anything that changes a life worth a business.Very Correct.Hugely Correct.

By the way, what is the mind game?In terms of personal development.It is unfolding of the layers of insights.

Isn’t it?

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𝐄𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐫, 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬

It was Prem this time, a young professional, with six months of experience who responded to my message.

I watch with 2-3 points without asking a question,


I observe  the  CHOICE OF WORDS.

I feel the warmth in their RESPONSE.

Believe it or not, 

I can know your approximate age 

And number of years at work

From those initial interactions.

May be each of us can figure that out.

If so, then

Your Employer can do so also.

That forms the initial IMPRESSION.

Being a fresher, 



Recruiters look for a TEAM Person.

Only that.

And you miss that


You FAIL to EXplore the next step


There was a PERCEPTION playing behind.

TEAM game is to take risk

At the cost of becoming a FOOL


I mean, you find nothing eventually.

Which is worthwhile,


The JOURNEY of exploration has 

To be consistently played.


That amounts to giving IMPORTANCE

To the naivest member in the team.

When you try something,

Without bothering too much


It conveys


Towards the UNKNOWN.

All these are factors


Displayed by 

Upcoming Leaders!!!.



Has to be outlined 

By focussing on a

Max 5 word phrase, that

Conveys enthusiasm and creativity

Although small,


This is a skill.

With every two years of experience


Gets added to you skillset and  mindset

Very Vital for an Organizational setup.

Most of us,

Do not recognize that

Most of us 

Do not have a MENTOR

To tell you that


You end up elaborating that 

In your RESUME,

Without hitting the point!

The Bottomline is,

Save time in your career

To pinpoint your DREAM and DESIRE

To make it big

In your own chosen filed…

Hope this hits home!! 

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𝗦𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿𝘆

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But most of us think that success is the ‘Result’ and the ‘outcome’, in terms of money. Well, that gets celebrated invariably.

And , that is fine.

Because money is energy, and those with strong processes should have high energy.

High ‘Prana’, as they call in the terms of Patanjali systems, in India.

When I learnt the fact from the story of Personal Gold (as to how the US cyclists won Silver against the formidable London cyclists, after being labelled hopelessly amateurish Americans)…. I included a ‘Process vs Results’ in my syllabus ..for Mid career Professionals with big dream who are looking for breakthroughs.

A delayed gratification does the trick.And also it can be the story of the Chinese Bamboo which doesn’t show up till the 4th year and when it does, finally, it hits 80 ft in just a year.I resonate so much with those stories.

Here is a test I took at MindValley for the Life Book intra-spect assessment.Here I am, scoring the top 4% of all who have taken the test and are in this category,, I super excel in the area of ‘Parenting’ and ‘Life vision’…that speaks a lot about my futuristic approach, which was proven in my personality test as well,,,, Its just a matter of time now to break big…Watsay??

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How to Think like a Vice PResident

How to think like a Vice President?
I was a Project Manager reporting to a VP for about 15 years of my life; wondering what extra he does than me? The moment you know the secret, you will fast track your growth
I was a Project Manager reporting to a VP for about 15 years of my life; wondering what extra he does than me? The moment you know the secret, you will fast track your growth

🛒•How would you define happiness at work? – More happy you are More productive you become

🛒•Do you love strategy? – The more you grow, the more you have to strategize

🛒•How much time do you spend in planning? 80% of your plan should go into planning

🛒•Do you plan ABC? Do you have 3 alternative plans should the first did not work?

🛒•How do you resolve ambiguity? Are you able to solve conflict amicably?

🛒•Are you allowed to make mistakes? This is the trick to grow confidence.

🛒•Do you repeat mistakes? An indicator of carelessness

🛒What fears/apprehensions do you have? Apprehensions kill happiness.

Do you have the conviction to reach out to your reporting officer for help?Mind you, this is an exercise you need to undertake to see if you are at least at 60% score, to be in track to regular promotion.That may take you to the position of the Vice President within 6 years of time.

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7 similarities between Buddha and Badass

Somebody complimented on being Badass. Lets see what is this all about

We need a combined forces of Power and love to achieve the highest end of human existence🧵

We dont have to give up anything in spirituality🧵

Egolessness is about having personal power about soul and spirit to shake the world🧵

Do not diminish yourself by giving up on abundance, riches, wealth and fame🧵

We need forces of love and power both to make the world better🧵

Power is being badass while Love is Buddha aspect- so essentially both have to be the both side of a coin🧵

Give up money blocks by arguing out money blocks🧵

Unless you master the skill to have all that you desire- you wont have a clue about spirituality

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𝕾𝖔𝖒𝖊 𝖔𝖋 𝖞𝖔𝖚 𝖇𝖊𝖑𝖔𝖓𝖌 𝖙𝖔 𝖆 𝖒𝖎𝖓𝖚𝖘𝖈𝖚𝖑𝖊 𝖈𝖔𝖒𝖒𝖚𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖞, 𝖆𝖙 𝖙𝖍𝖊 𝖒𝖔𝖒𝖊𝖓𝖙

When that friend helped me to come to the organization of my dreams with a doubled salary on my previous one, he warned me not to be concerned about who is getting what package, because the opportunity to learn was huge.  

I was happy, because huge learning comes with the opportunity to try & fail multiple times. We are in a setup, where each such experiment gets documented, for the consumption of our partners.

I can summarize my career as huge risk taking and innovation at each step.

There is another risk, which may not be a risk per se, which I didn’t visualized.   I was hired as a subject matter specialist – SMS.  I could take decision with regard to the next step, but not with the budget.

You would be wondering as to how that mattered.

Well, if the budget is not there, my decision to execute also wouldn’t materialize. 

Therefore, I can come to action only if somebody decided in my favour.  

I thought that there are a lot many interim steps required in innovations which need quick decisions and can not wait for hierarchical approvals.

Comes only with enhanced trust factor. That the management does not want to be in a spot when it comes to explain the process which went wrong, which was my decision as part of the implementation.

Here is what I did:  

I started thinking thru the entire process and outlined the choices when I would require instant approval.  This led to 🍟good documentation 🍟 of the project at planning stage.

It also made the process 🍟highly replicable 🍟 as it did not involve sudden decision making from my side. 

Seniors heaved a sigh of relief that the implementation and execution is now 🍟diligently monitored without any surprises 🍟


So what is the problem?

No problem at all.  Except that

🎆🎆I added  ‘Joy-Preneurship’  to my vision statement, wherein I would be helping innovators to have a free hand,  with the Billion Dollar enterprise that I build.

You might ask – Why is it required? 

Oh I understand.

Many do not know that innovation is at least 50% of randomness, which comes as a result of quick action!!

It is not just implementation of a known process!!!


This realization did not come here only. I felt being stopped from decision making quite a number of times in different organizations.

Mind you,  you deal with 97% of people who play safe (that is how 3% are risk takers and thereby own 97% of the world’s wealth),

It is not their fault, it is how the world is!!


People who are innovative, are the same people who are stuck with process-orientated work.

 Do you agree with me there?

I understand if you don’t see my point.  I don’t expect 97% to see my point here.

But those of you who can see what I am saying, then I am the person who is looking to welcome you to my community of ‘Mid career professionals looking for a breakthru’, because that is where you need to start.

You, who can see my point, are feeling unfulfilled exactly because you are stuck.

I expect you to register yourself for free at

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6 indicators to check if you are fit to lead

Unless emotionally consolidated, can somebody lead? The following are the indicators of a strong mind that is fit to lead.

🍟They don’t feel sorry for themselves

They move on. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. So if you are not mentally strong, can you be resourceful?

🍟They easily embrace change

They welcome challenges.

What is change? Disruption, Innovation, Breakthrus. Can you imagine to have a steep graph to change unless these?

🍟They dont waste time bothering what they couldn’t control

Many circumstances are out of control. Not everybody we can please.

🍟They help others to be happy

Keep motivated, it is not procrastination, find alternative ways to get ahead.

🍟They are kind fair not afraid

when the things come from heart, with genuine concern looking for what can be better.

🍟They elaborate others’ success

That is when the seed their team collaboration.

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3 ways to be careful not to be a control freak–e1g9vpb

Did you take permission?

Whether a junior or your children, make the rules along with them. They have their lives around which they need some freedom which you might not have observed. Their bye in is important.

Do you respect the process?

For you it might be unnecessary or lengthy process. But, again, respect the other person’s opinion.

Does it create Pressure?

Expect some kind of resistance because you may not know everything about the other person’s life. They may not express it. So Give them some space.

Now.. how does it affect your being a leader or not being resourceful?

I thought this would be obvious. Having a dominating image does not augur well for any leader.

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7 aspects of sustained growth trajectory

Getting to a leadership position

Everybody is excited about salary raise and being given a bigger responsibility. Unless prepared, it may burn you out. Habits, attitude and decision making are paramount for this.

Recognition at Workplace

Even if you are not a leader or team-lead, you can become a subject matter expertise. In fact, it is the surest of ways to get regular leadership positions going ahead.

Establishing Versatility

Every one starts with at least 2 skills whether identified or not identified. With each year of experience, one new dimension gets added to your skills. At the beginning of the career, or for the first few years of your career, you should go horizontal into various positions to learn different skills. Ultimately, these need to be integrated to create your unique identity.

Follow these 7 aspects

Building Credibility

Every attribute takes time to become a specialty. During this time, persistence, consistence, resilience and pro-activeness are established. Your seniors will be watching intently. You are becoming an organizational resource.

Integrating different skillsets

Very diverse skillsets need a narrative to fit into a single profile. It takes some skill for you to integrate those, so that you become the right person to execute a certain role. One-word explains all your experiences, expertise and specialty.

Becoming a better leader

It requires educating, empowering training and building capability in your second and third rank so that they can ultimately grow to take up bigger responsibilities, so that you can delegate more and more while you find newere avenues of business and intervention.

Enjoying your growth

As leader, you get to deal with seniors, peers and juniors. This may lead to conflict, friction, arguments and ambiguity. Ultimately the end result will be a toxic environment. But with some maturity, you can turn this around to be a better place so that you enjoy and celebrate your growth.